Ellie had viral infection from her cold. T has been so busy, he couldn't get home till 10/10.30pm. When I was taking care of my sick baby on my own, even going to the toilet is like a luxury. If you have maid or/and family to help you out, you are lucky so please don't take things for granted.
ha ha.. even i got maid and baby not sick, going to tiolet is like a luxury to me already.
ReplyDeleteIts the same when baby wants only you. :)
ReplyDeleteI think after ellie is recover, she may want you only. :p
ReplyDelete這是 他們 分離恐懼症 的開始.
It's not just that. It's the helplessness and loneliness too. She was crying and I was hungry, tired and wanted to go to the toilet. I understand even if you have someone to help you there are times your baby only wants you so you can't afford to go to have a shower or go to the toilet. But at least if there is someone else there, s/he can fetch you a glass of water, get the food ready for the baby, laundry, take the dog out etc.
ReplyDeleteYen,
ReplyDeleteIt won't make too much difference if she only wants me but she only has me anyway (unless it's the weekend). :-/
I totally agreed with " s/he can fetch you a glass of water, get the food ready for the baby, laundry, take the dog out etc."
ReplyDeleteBut this doesnt applied to our parents. I experienced that and threw my temper to them. I knew I shouldnt but i was really stressed as even there were people there but they just there watching me being helplessness and busy.
But I guess they are better now after that incident.
Ling, really understand what you written here, I am the lucky one, when the girls are sick I will have my mom, mother-in-law, my maid even my in-law to help me out, so I will never complaint on this.
ReplyDeleteReally understand how you felt, I have once of the experience, which is my mom went to HK for holiday, I brought Qing back to her place and my maid was off that night, Qing's dad is out for work, alone and helpless when the little one was having high fever................ so really understand how you felt.
Take care and you are a strong mom, knew that being strong and independent you need someone to led on too, let Mr Wong give you a big hug when he come back from work, you will be ok, before that, a big hug from me and the girls to you, *hug, hug*.
Sam,
ReplyDeleteThanks. You have no idea what your comment meant to me. It's hard for any mum when their child is ill but it feels 10x worse when you are on your own. It's difficult describe unless you have experienced it. I couldn't stop her crying, I felt so helpless. I sat on the floor holding her in my arms. I wanted to cry but no tears came out. It was as if my body was telling me the little one needed me so I couldn't afford to be weak.
Yen,
ReplyDeleteOur parents wanted to help but they just didn't know how to. Believe me, after looking after a sick baby on your own, you would be very grateful just to have someone there. Ok, you needed to give them step-by-step instruction but at least they were there for you. During the two days Ellie was ill, Terry was stuck in meetings so I couldn't even speak to him on the phone. When it was really bad, I couldn't help wondering if people in msia/sg/hk know how lucky (and even 'spoilt' for some) they are.
Ling, you are most welcome, this is the most we can do for you, giving you support by putting down comment.
ReplyDeleteHolding Ellie in your arms and sitting on the floor is just like me holding Qing in my arms but I sat on the bed, hahahaha......... is she better now, hope she get well soon..........=)
Mommy will only become weak when our children got better, because there is when we relax ourselves.......... =)
So, remember to hug Mr Wong as hard as you can when you see him tonight, that is the time you can release your stress oh.
Exactly. But I didnt expect that the step to step instructions that can go into so much details eg like for every every little steps must tell between big steps. I was not really angry with them but they should understand why i threw my temper to them too. Not that they angry me treat them like a maid (order this and that). I guess you can understand how I felt when they said that to me but I never meant that.
ReplyDeleteBut like I said I am their 1st child who become a mum. They are much experience now, you just dont know how lucky you are too :p
But they are still our parent. This is how 'cute' they are.
I didnt mean to blame them. But I really hope that they understand not only them feel 'hurted'. I was 'hurted' too. Anyway, it's a history now.